TammyDaily

UGH!!  Today I had to Travel.  My first hour sucked!  The wind blew across the road and other drivers just don’t get how to drive safely.  I was a nervous wreck by the time I got to the rest stop to use the bathroom.  I just wanted to cry….well, I kind of had tears in my eyes when I called my husband.

Maybe I just was just mad because I have to Travel.  Maybe I was tired, frustrated, irritated, and upset.  I have to Travel.  We all do.  This all boils down to making a decision to move to a place that we can retire to.  I am there but my husband isn’t, yet.

When I called him, he reminded me of our goal.  Yes, stay positive, I know.  It will be worth it.  We aren’t doing this because we want to Travel back and forth to see each other.

Traveling should mean taking mini vacations, long weeks in the sun, and taking grandkids to a theme park.  I know many of my friends and relatives Travel to take care of their parents, grandparents and grandkids.  That is the best traveling.

I know when he Travels home, it is a way better trip.  Why?  Because he is coming home.  Coming home to spend time with me, the kids, grandkids, parents, and others that are here.  Don’t get me wrong, I get to spend time with him when I Travel to see him, but it’s different.  This is home.  He is Traveling home.

I Travel to my job, to get groceries and gas, to visit friends and relatives, to shop and so many other things.  I don’t mind driving, really.  It is a chance to think, dream, talk to myself, figure things out that have been troubling me, and best of all — jam to the music.

How do you like to Travel?  Just get in the car and go, with or without a destination?  I like having some kind of destination.  Traveling can get you where you want to go – it can also take you places that you thought didn’t exist.

Does your circle include your Cousins?  How far out do you keep in touch – first, second, third?  With all the social media available to us we have access to so much information.  I personally am in touch with so many generations and layers of Cousins, I forget where they are on the family tree!

The family tree and its branches and roots go very deep.  I think that in order to understand who your Cousins are, you need to follow strings from your parents to tie them all together.  I have Cousins that are from my paternal grandfather’s (great uncle) brothers and sisters that I have never seen and if I did, I was so little I wouldn’t know them from the next person!  I do, however, keep in touch with a few others on that fantastic website Facebook.  That, my friends, is a great way to tie those strings together if your parents are no longer with you.  We may not have seen each other for a long time, but our hearts are connected.

I absolutely love seeing my family tree spreading out.  Marriages and babies all came from two people who started something that they could never have guessed would be so big.

First Cousins have a special bond.  We use to see first Cousins on a yearly basis.  Now with our children growing and having their own children it certainly gets harder.  Now, sad to say, we tend to see each other at funerals.  They were the first people you got to spend time with on many holidays, camping trips, graduations, weddings, and funerals.  Your friends didn’t get to go to your family functions. Second Cousins were always older and had more in common with your parents.  As you got older, they are the ones that you can now relate to and learn more about the strings that tie you together.

Going through pictures with my parents this fall, I was amazed at some of the pictures they had of my favorite great uncle.  Really, they are pictures that would be appreciated by his children.  I know my paternal grandmother had given them but now I think they need to go back to my second Cousins.

Memories play an important part in keeping our strings tied to each other and when we get together now, as adults, how much more fun it is to reminisce about those times!!

As I reflect on all this, I see the changes in others.  We are now taking care of parents, having grandchildren, preparing for retirement, and putting our houses in order.

Age has a derogatory meaning for some and excitement for others.  It can mean aches and pains or the chance to do what we always wanted to do!

I am a half glass full kind of person and hope to be able to do what I want – with the hubby!  Maybe it’s because of what I said earlier – Age is just a number to me!

When you think of Separation, most people think negatively.  My experience is a positive situation to come!

Things are never as they seem to most people. We, the hubby and I, are not what you see.  We are a couple living a different kind of life at the moment.  We share everything except our living quarters. Now you may think – hmmm why?

We decided that when life throws you opportunity, then, well you have to take it!  Selling a house during good economic times and investing in the future is what we did.  With it comes weeks of Separation.

I talk of Separation, because, to me it is where we are at this moment.   A choice to be apart.  I live in our home and he lives near his work four hours away in a small apartment.  A decision that we thought wasn’t going to be as hard turns out to be very hard.  We chose to work on making our home our retirement place – which, to tell you the truth, isn’t that far away!

Finances, chores, responsibilities, and how we make it work are clearly defined.   We miss each other.  We always want the other to be where we are.  We take turns traveling to and from.  It is a give and take when you are Separated by miles.

Being apart is hard.  I love having my space, however, my space is missing a part of something that is bigger than me.  Just having him sitting in the same room, watching tv is what I miss.  It doesn’t have to mean that we need to talk, it is just knowing he is right there.  The hugs, kisses, touches, and yes arguments are all misses – but only for a while.

When I am on the phone with him, just hearing him cough, breath, yawn, or yes, burp, is what I need to hear.  Separation can be many things to many people.  To me, it is just being away for a while.  I think we learn a little of ourselves and of our spouses/significant other when we are apart.  We learn to do things we wouldn’t normally do because we rely on the other for so many things.

So when you think of Separation, think of it as being apart for only a little while because you are working towards a positive place in your life!

I want to share my perspective about Life in General.  I think most of us think but do not speak about things that we don’t know enough about.  What if we did know exactly what we are suppose to about Life in General at this moment in time?  What if this is exactly where we are suppose to be and why we are suppose to be doing what we are doing?  This is one person’s perspective and thoughts.  I want to share my thoughts and make YOU think about Life in General.